Why does it take hardship for people to realize a person’s character?

Let me explain. 

Recently, I made a mistake, and I’m the first to admit it.  You see, I befriended someone and we got super close and chatted regularly. Then all of a sudden, this person stopped talking to me for the period of a month (this can seem like forever if you talk to someone a lot). 

I thought the reason they pulled away had to do with me.  I am guilty of this - if someone pulls away or is upset, my first instinct is to believe that I am to blame. These are the thoughts that came into my head as soon as this person stopped talking to me: “I am the one to blame. What did I do wrong? Was it something I said? What was our last conversation?” I was really hurt that they stopped communication.

Hi everyone!

I haven't written in a while, there was a death in the family that caused me to take a break  from writing.  I'm back now!

Lately, I have been hearing songs that inspire me and relate to things that are currently going on in my life and the lives of others closest to me.  I heard the song "Jet Lag" by Simple Plan featuring Natasha Bedingfield and it made me think of how I fell for a silly boy (who will remain nameless).