Arianna Merritt, M.Ed.

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Obsessed with Marriage....

I have been to two weddings in the past couple weeks; one as a bridesmaid and one as a guest.  The main question that was on many peoples minds when they saw a mid-to-late twenty something woman was: WHY AREN'T YOU MARRIED YET?

For example, here is the conversation that I had with my cab driver leaving the city a couple days later.

"So what brought you to town? Were you on business?"

"No, I was in a friends wedding."

"Oh ok. So... when's your wedding?"

"Not for a while. I haven't found the right guy yet"

"Oh I see, well you better get on that. As you get older, the pool is getting smaller. Men in our days had it harder than men today, so I dont know why so many men are afraid to commit.  Well, my dear you should be a general. Be assertive and go on the attack"

I thought it was sweet of this older man to care about me. But this comment along with others that I received over the past couples weeks made me wonder what is society's obsession with marriage?  Don't get me wrong marriage is a wonderful thing but it should be entered carefully and to a special person.  I want to get married and will when I find the right man. I would rather be single than settle for a man that treats me badly.

The comments just made me think...am I not ok on my own? Are we inadequate if we are not married/single?

Thoughts? Experiences?

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