Arianna Merritt, M.Ed.

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A Quote about Relationships that got me thinking....

Last night, I read the following quote in Dan Levy's article in Flare, "The Battle For Love":

"I often confuse “fighting for it” with fighting for a person. Therein lies the misconception: To fight for a relationship should involve both parties actively trying to make it work. So often, however, the fight is one-sided, with someone struggling to hold on to a person instead of a relationship. And once you’ve started down that path, it’s hard to find the perspective to evaluate your actions with a clear head and an open mind."

This quote struck a chord with me. When it comes to relationships, it is hard to evaluate your actions with your mind when your heart is so heavily invested in the other person.

The quote reminded me how, in the past, I have "fought for a person" instead of both of us "fighting for it." Relationships need both parties to make it work. I was guilty of this. I held on to this man because I enjoyed his presence in my life, yet our relationship wasn’t worth fighting for. There were many factors as to why it didn't work, but in the end he didn't want to “complicate” his already complicated life.

I still value his presence in my life.  However, it is a hard struggle to care about someone deeply who you can’t be in a relationship with.  You have to move on, as hard as that may sound.  To move on from this person, you will have to take your emotions out of it and use only your mind, something I struggled with.

By using your mind and your heart, hopefully, you will find someone who will put in the same amount of effort as you to maintain the relationship.

Thoughts?

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